There are four proven ways to maximize your chances of finding Compatibility.
- Compatibility tests
- About Me & Who I'd Like
- Getting active
The first secret to success: Post a photo. (Or two or three – the more the better!) A clear, smiling photo is the first step to creating a must-click profile. Click here to upload a photo. It's not as hard as you might think, and I'll walk you through it!
The second key to success: Take the compatibility tests for heaven's sake! Some folks won't even click on profiles of those they're not compatible with, and you won't know how compatible you could be with someone if you don't take the fun, free compatibility tests we offer! Just look log in to your profile page and look for the links under compatibility.
The third essential: Write engaging, easy-to-read descriptions of yourself and your ideal partner (this is what is called My Description).
And secret number 4: Get on SinglesBee and get active! Are you searching and looking at your compatibles every day? Check to see who's online now. We're adding thousands of new members every day, and your soul mate might have joined 5 minutes ago!
OK! With that out of the way, let's get down to business.
You know how it is. Some profiles are just much more fun to read than others. Ever wonder why? I know the profiles I linger on are the ones that reveal some personality and pay attention to detail.
Instead of this:
"I'm laid back, smart, fun and nice-looking."
Yawn. While it's good to describe your desirable attributes, this laundry list of ho-hum adjectives isn't exactly alluring, now is it? I know you're a great catch, or you wouldn't be putting yourself out there on SinglesBee to find your best partner, if you didn't have amazing qualities. But you have to tell other members just what makes you so special. You want your profile to stand out. But using generic words like "smart" and "fun" makes you sound like a wallflower. Is this really you? I didn't think so!
"I'm a high school history teacher with major enthusiasm for life and a razor-sharp wit. My personality: I'm unapologetically goofy (think Ellen Degeneres) with one-of-a-kind style (think Gwen Stefani). I make the best lobster bisque, but I'm much prouder of my killer grilled cheese sandwiches. I have great table manners and moms love me."
Now, which one of those people would you rather exchange emails with? I thought so. The second description is much more engaging and fun. The history teacher is funny without being sarcastic or challenging. The celebrity comparisons make the profile colorful and entertaining, and she's confident without being conceited.
Instead of this:
"I'm into hiking, travel, trivia and spending time with friends."
"If I could be anywhere right now, I'd be:
1. Exploring an ancient ruin in remote Central America, or
2. In my living room with great friends, some Trivial Pursuit cards and margaritas all around.
Which of those would spark your interest enough to actually meet this person for cocktails? In reality, these are two possible descriptions of the same person, but the second one is unique and intriguing. Of course you're a fun person with diverse interests – just make sure you show members exactly what it is that's so fun about you. This profile gives the reader a vivid scenario to envision, and because of the mini-outline format, it's also visually appealing and easy to read. In a sea of too-similar profiles, anything you do differently will make you that much more memorable.
Most importantly, details like the ones in this profile give your compatibles a conversational jumping-off place that they can't get if you simply post boring, resume-style details. And you want those first conversations to be more casual chat than uncomfortable job interview, right?
Always avoid this:
"I'm not a player. I'm not a cheater. I'm not a liar. I'm not a drama queen."
Tsk, tsk. Statements like these are horrible. OK, so we know what she's not. Who cares? Your description of yourself needs to detail, in positive terms, who you are and what you are into. People who feel the need to deny that they're liars, for example, are usually overcompensating by trying to cover up their dishonesty. Saying you aren't a liar attracts dishonest people, and it makes you look dishonest.
Don't panic, friends – this isn't a college entrance essay, so stop sweating it! Your "About Me" doesn't have to be long, flowery or too descriptive. In fact, it's better when it's not. Short, light, honest and unique is the best way to go when describing yourself to your potential soul mate. Above all, keep it fun, keep it simple and just be your incredible self.