How to Get Him To Propose
Learning How to Get Him To Propose can be as difficult as making a cat take a bath!
So, you want to learn how to make him propose. Well, If there’s one thing that even the bravest, most courageous men are afraid of – it’s commitment.
I don’t want to get all sciency on you here, but I need to in order to make my point:
(My background is in behavioral psychology, so bear with me please!)
Nature has programmed men to be polygamous (yes, really) – having multiple female partners maximizes a man’s chances of expanding his family!
Hear me out here! I know this might sound barbaric to you – however, this behavior of men has been integral to the survival of humankind.
Humans have survived wars, diseases, natural calamities and have emerged as the dominant species on this planet – we are even ready to take on the skies.
Sure, women have played an equally important role in the proliferation of our species. (I’m a woman, by the way). 🙂
They have raised kids, often under extremely difficult circumstances. A woman’s chances (several hundred years ago) of successfully raising children depended largely upon her ability to keep a man since he provided protection from other men and predators.
So the big question is – how do you make a man commit to you for the rest of his life when his brain is telling him to do other-wise?
HERE’S How to Get Him To Propose – and it’s quite simple – be an extremely desirable woman with high quality traits & features!
In other words:
The man should feel that he is winning by committing to you!
There is no way you can make someone do something they don’t want to do. Even if you manage to trick a man to propose to you – the relationship will probably not work out because he’ll ultimately realize that this is NOT at all what he wants and he’ll likely dump you. Why would you engage in trickery and manipulation anyway? Nothing good ever comes out of it.
A man only proposes to a woman if he is madly in love with her.
Want to know how to make him fall in love with you? Sorry to say, but you can’t!
BUT – you can definitely strive to become the best version of yourself and improve the odds!
By doing this, you’ll attract lots of good looking, kind and successful men into your life. (Or just “that one”).
You probably came here looking for a quick fix or solution on how to get that one guy to propose to you.
Unfortunately, there are no quick fixes! Trickery and manipulation just don’t work – you cannot keep a man attracted to you (long term) by doing things that don’t align with your belief and value systems. You cannot forever pretend to be a person that you are not.
You cannot assume a fake identity for the rest of your life!
However, there are many things that you can do to make yourself more attractive to men in general.
You can begin by improving your appearance and getting into good shape. Many women get offended when I tell them to get in shape (I’m a woman too, by the way). They’ve been led to believe that society should accept them just as they are. Well, you can wish for whatever you want but the truth is that men are extremely visually driven. If they do not like what they see, they are not even interested in finding out more. So if you ever hope to become an alpha woman, you have to get rid of bad habits and work on your health and fitness. This doesn’t necessarily amount to just losing excess fat – it also includes kicking off addictions (cigarettes, alcohol, drugs) and eliminating stress (through meditation and yoga).
Being physically attractive is a great start but if you want men to perceive you as high status, you have to be emotionally healthy too.
If you’re emotionally unfit, you will display needy, clingy behavior. This turns men off and they will never deem you worthy enough to keep around for long.
Sure, they will want to sleep with you since you are pretty. However, you’ll probably drive them away by being too clingy and desperate. You can start to improve your emotional health by working on your social skills and engaging in the things that make you happy.
Start talking to people more, especially to cute guys. Work towards achieving your life goals (passions, hobbies, interests).
Make new friends, learn from people that are smarter than you, expand the horizons of your mind. Create a life that is fulfilling, satisfying and fun even without the presence of a man. Stop needing men too much and they will automatically be drawn to you.
Start doing all the above mentioned things even if you are already in a relationship.
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you can’t or shouldn’t strive to look better or be more social. It also doesn’t prevent you following your dreams. Your boyfriend will sense that you’re growing in stature and getting out of his league – he will want to hold on to you by any means and he will definitely consider proposing to you so he doesn’t lose you! You can then decide whether you want to marry him, ditch him or if you want to take a break and reassess your feelings towards him.
I hope that you make the best choice!
Bonus Tips: Some men just cannot overcome their wild side. These are usually bad-ass players who just want to have fun & party – they probab\ly have no intention of getting married anytime soon.
Stop wasting your time with these guys (if you’re looking for a serious relationship, that is).
Ideally, you should settle for a guy who is attractive AND wants a family. You can find out whether a guy is family oriented very early in the relationship without asking him directly and possibly spooking him.
Say you are sitting at a café or in a park with your date and you two see some some kids. You can simply ask him whether he likes kids or not. If he goes – “yeah, I love kids. I love to play with my nieces and nephews and someday I hope to have kids of my own”; he’s probably marriage material.
ON the other hand – if he says that he’s not comfortable around children, you should make a mental note about it.
There are hundreds of similar subtle questions that can help you decide whether he is family oriented or not :
- What are your priorities in life?
- Where do you see yourself in 5 or 10 years?
You get the idea. Trust me on this, these subtle hints can help you get an insight into a man’s true nature.
Want more? Check out “What Men Secretly Want” and see what REALLY ‘pushes his buttons’.
(FYI – I did a full review of What Men Secretly Want you can read here too!)